In an effort to reintegrate our Catholic faith into our
lives, my family has built a bond with a priest in CT. He has offered much
solace during an otherwise hectic and tumultuous time. One statement he made that has provided much comfort is that we should look for signs of my mom’s
spirit around us. I have found her to be present in many ways from rainbows to
constellations and acts of
coincidence and fate. I realized I
took it a bit too far when I became convinced her spirit ate my bacon on
Sunday. But I miss her, I can’t help it. And maybe that means I am looking to
hard, but I am starting to realize
that she won’t be around to do the things that used to make me laugh or maybe
even cause annoyance.
I’ll never forget the time my mom helped me move into an apt
in Florida and then we decided to check out a local hotel bar with an alleged amazing
rotating view of the city. However, when we arrived it became evident this was
now event space and longer a functioning bar. We discovered this as an employee
informed us of such upon our entrance, however of course my mom wanted to check
it out. It turned out to be a Native American tribal reunion at which each
attendee was fully decked out in traditional dress and clearly of Native American
descent. Although we were two pale white ladies in shorts and Capri pants, she was convinced we could just blend
in and “enjoy the music”. Of course I was humiliated, but humored the same and
secretly had a blast jamming out to
a super zealous flautist. I loved that she was up for anything. As
always, she was flexible where I was tentative.
She would often say “c’est la vie, c’est la guerre”, amongst
several other random sporadic French statements, left over from the French nuns
of her childhood. I believe the loose meaning is “such is life such is war.” She
rolled with the punches, even the final punch in the most graceful possible
way. Flexibility was always her way, where I am unwillingly ruffled by the twists and turns life invariably
produces.
Another amazing trait possessed by my mom was her desire to
listen. I am not saying she always succeeded, there were times when she would
inevitably have to tune out the 10th time in a row I called crying about
a rodent or pest or the in depth description of a mundane task performed at
work. However, mostly she had the rare desire to hear about your day, savor it,
and most likely ask you to repeat it to her friends later if she found it amusing.
This would drive me crazy, as I would fear the joy she received from my tales
wouldn’t carry over to others and often times I would balk at her request.
Needless to say I wouldn’t mind repeating things a few more times. I miss you
and love you, these hydrangeas are for you woman.
